To buy or not to buy…THAT is the question.

minniemouseA couple of months ago, I had some ladies over to my house and some of them included moms from my oldest daughter Lily’s school. While they were here I noticed one of them was carrying THE cutest black backpack. I practically jumped on top of her and was like oooooooooooh what’s THIS? I tried it on, looked inside to check for the most important thing…good pockets and then walked around with it like I was modeling on a catwalk. I loved this purse! Every ten years I go through a cute backpack phase too so it was perfect timing. lol When I broke my foot a few months back and was on crutches and it was hard to carry a normal purse, I busted out my old backpack/diaper bag from when my now four year old Luna was a baby. So yes, since you all can count…that is a purse that is four years old and I made it new again. Cus that’s how I roll. 😉

Anyway, she told me it was a splurge though so after she left, I immediately got online and searched for the backpack. $278.00!!!! Saybackpack whaaaaaat?????!!!! I googled coupon codes and got it down to $225.00 but I just couldn’t do it. I couldn’t bring myself to spend 200 something dollars on a purse. So I just pinned it to my “Me Wanty” dream board on Pinterest page along with several other backpacks I now also love. A board I started for my husband years ago when he told me that I was sometimes hard to buy for. But the thing is, I don’t even want HIM to buy it for me either because ummmm, hello…it’s still OUR money and I don’t need a 200 something dollars purse.

Or do I?

Here’s the thing…before I had kids years ago, I was THAT girl. Ask ANY of my friends. I liked cute handbags and fun shoes and ok, I still like those things now but I just won’t spend the money on them. I can’t bring myself to do it. It’s so weird. I’ve actually tried too. I’ll buy something, get home, have MAJOR buyer’s remorse and then take it right back to the store. It can be something simple from Target too. It’s why I don’t really ever get my nails done. I just can’t see spending the money on something that will last like a week or two. I don’t really splurge on things for me anymore because all I see now is a bill that can be paid, a trip that can be taken, money for school for my kids or just something more important.


I think it goes back to that “experiences not stuff brings you happiness” thing we try and teach our kids. You can’t take “stuff” with you when you peace out of life can you? Nope. Cus let’s be honest…it’s not like on the way to Heaven Jesus is gonna be like…”Hey Cindy…that bag is AH-mazing!! Come on in!!!” lol

That’s not to say there is anything wrong with buying things for yourself. I mean come on. I’m not dead yet and full disclosure, I did just buy a really cute pair of red boots because duh…who doesn’t need RED boots this Fall/Winter right and they were on sale so… I just mean that I’m trying hard to remind myself (and my girls) to keep it in perspective. Maybe a splurge on a pricey cute black backpack once every ten years is ok (hee hee) and then maybe I make sure to go through some of my cute old bags to donate to my favorite charity. 

Will I buy the backpack? Meh…I dunno. I think I can probably ride out the old four year old one for a while longer. Plus, Christmas is around the corner! 😉

XO Surviving Mommy 





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  • Jennifer says:

    so….. you replace it about every 10 years…… that makes it about $20 per year! (Said the little devil on your shoulder!) I couldn’t bring myself to buy it, either… I see groceries and electricity and education… However, I’m more than happy to sit on your shoulder for a spell 😉

  • Stacy says:

    You’re so funny!
    I have to say I use it for travel and when I sub. It’s the greatest travel bag ever and I can take my lunch, water bottle and iPad and not have 2 bags to carry.
    I kind of winced at the price too—but couldn’t find one at Target that even came close.
    You can ALWAYS borrow mine. 😘

  • Lori Adams says:

    Cindy, you have a very healthy perspective on not going overboard with buying, just to be buying. It will serve you well and will be a great example for the girls to observe. But you mentioned how long you keep an item and how much use you get out of it, etc… that needs to be taken into consideration. That’s exactly the way I approach buying and I am the queen of taking care of things so that they last me a very long time. If this is a well-made item and you know in your heart you could see yourself getting, for example, 10 years of use out of it….look at it this way: $225 divided by 10 = $22.50 per year. You would be making an “investment” of $22.50 a year to own and enjoy this functional bag. Sure, you come out of pocket now for the full amount, but amortize the cost over how long you feel it could be of value to you and then it becomes more realistic on what it really “costs” you. Couple that with the fact that you won’t be buying another similar product for the duration you own it and it becomes a real bargain at $22.50/year. This scenario is only beneficial for folks who make smart buying choices and don’t buy items just to be buying them. This allows one to buy a more expensive item due to self-discipline in shopping AND due to the fact that you take care of the item and use it a long time.
    Financial advising is my background and I LOVE to help people think through questions just like you posed.
    Please post the brand name of the bag because it’s coming through blurry for me. Also, you called it a backpack and it looks like a bag/purse so I’m very interested in seeing additional pictures once I know the brand name. I, too, may have to make an “investment” in this! 💲💲✔️👍

    • It’s Henri Bendel and it’s a backpack purse. So either or! Can you believe it. Isn’t it so fun??!! Guess what? My hubster SURPRISED me and gave it to me for our Anniversary! He is a good man!!!! PS. I totally loved all of your breakdown and explained to him that he just made an INVESTMENT! lol

  • Ashley Davis says:

    Love your honesty about want vs. need. We all could take some lessons for you! xoxo

  • Stephanie says:

    If I’m going to spend a large amount of money a non essential item. It better last me awhile. Because I would rather spend it on my daughter.

  • Brigid OHara Koshko says:

    I know exactly what you are saying. I have wanted something for so long and finally justify purchasing it and then take it back because I felt selfish. I do work but the husband is the main breadwinner. Hopefully, if I win the lottery soon I will have no issues and can shop as I wish.

  • Terry Poage says:

    I am terrible at buying stuff. I am one of those people that buy things when I am sad or mad. I really need to change this behavior.

  • Kelly says:

    You sound like me. I am really bad at spending money on myself. I can buy my family all sorts of things, but when I need something new I put it off as long as possible. It’s nice to see I am not the only one that struggles.

  • belinda bell says:

    this sounds like a great travel bag. I need a good travel bag.

  • Judy Thomas says:

    When you are a Mum you always think twice when buying for yourself 🙂

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