Help! I don’t know how to ask for this!

Help! I don’t know how to ask for this. “This” being help. Really. I don’t know how to ask for help and this is something I said recently to my friend and MOMpreneur, yes, mompreneur (it’s totally a thing) Lorrie Thomas Ross when we were having coffee. I do a weekly Facebook live show called Coffee Convo Wednesday and I asked Lorrie (aka “Wild Web Woman”) to be on the show because she’s been working from home for over ten years now running her very own and very successful web marketing business called Web Marketing Therapy. She has a special place in her heart for web-based business which inspired her to also launch Wild Web Women, a company that supports women in growing their web-based business. She has a system that optimizes your web-based business so it works to support the happiness, health and wealth you deserve! Ummm…yes, please!

In addition to talking to Lorrie about how do you ask for help, I wanted to pick her brain about working from home. Even if you don’t work at all OR you go into an office/place of business, you still run a home too right? That’s working from home! Or maybe you literally work from home like Lorrie and me who have actual businesses IN our home. Perhaps you have a company, want to start a web-based business, own an Etsy shop or you run a multi-level marketing business. All of these fall under the “working from home” umbrella.

I’ve been working from home just about two years now so I feel like I’m still trying to master it all. I have two daughters, 11 and four and while my oldest goes to school full-time, my youngest only does a half day right now. What that means for me is in the morning, I’m good. However, once she gets home from school at noon and I feed her lunch…she is home. Ya know, aka my office. Lorrie gave me some great advice about really setting the tone in my house/office. Set the guidelines with the family so that when Mommy is in her “workspace,” they know there needs to be some quiet time. She even suggested using headphones (for me!) so that the little one knows when she sees them on Mommy, it means shhhhhh, Mommy is on a call. I kinda love this!

I’ve also learned something about myself…I do NOT like to ask for help. Not sure why or if this stems from something else deeper, ha ha, but I just prefer to try and do it all myself. I turn into an awkward turtle when I have to ask for help. Lorrie suggests small steps which was some more really great advice from her.

In fact, why not watch and listen to our fun Coffee Convo Wednesday below to hear our entire conversation. It was pretty insightful for me!

It helps to lean on other women to be successful. Whether it’s being successful in your work life, home life or just life, period. My main take-away from my time with Lorrie on Coffee Convo Wednesday? There is no shame in my ask-for-help game. Something I know I need to work on because it takes a village right? We can’t do this alone and we shouldn’t have to. I’m grateful to Lorrie for her tips and her honesty and for taking some time out of her busy work from home schedule to be a part of mine.

I’m thinking I wanna pick Lorrie’s brain more, if you do too, comment below with your questions or thoughts. I think if I bribe her with a cup of coffee…or two, I bet she’d join me again on Coffee Convo Wednesday!

XO Cindy 

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  • Ashley Davis says:

    This is one of my most favorite shows you have done. It was so helpful to me at this point in my life and all that I am encountering! Thanks for having Lorrie on the show! I’m working on asking for help right now…

  • Michele Freeman says:

    I absolutely loved the video! You look great Cindy and Lorrie your hair cut is so cute! I wish I was brace enough to get mine cut short! I get a little more cut off every time I go to the salon. Maybe one day soon I’ll take the plunge and just do it! One last thing Cindy… Do you sell your Surviving Mommy stuff? I’d love to have the mug and the shirt! Again, you look great and I loved hearing your voice! I was a huge fan of yours when you were on the radio! It was never a dull moment with you! Good luck with the “help” issues. Remember, baby steps! God Bless πŸ’•

    • Michele, thank you so much for your kind words! Yes, I sell the t-shirts right here on the website. We have the regular Surviving Mommy version and the Disney inspired Surviving Mommy version. The coffee mugs are coming soon! And thank you again for your kind words, really…you are so sweet and I appreciate it more than you know! πŸ™‚

  • Linda Manns Linneman says:

    I am like you. I have a hard time asking for help. I feel guilty for asking of anything. I loved this article. I will have to check out the other sites. Thank you so much for sharing

  • April Monty says:

    I think that’s a common thing with women ,we getbso used to doing for others that we feel strange asking for help.

  • sarah alexis says:

    I’m terrible about asking for help. It really is one of the hardest things to do… especially being a single mom. I’m always trying to prove I can do it without help!!!!

  • Wanda Tracey says:

    This was a fantastic article and it has offered me some inspiration and understanding in the fact that I am not alone.I can ask for help because at some point we all need each other for support.Thanks for the great feature.

  • Francine Anchondo says:

    I am also terrible at asking for help .

  • Jay Jackson says:

    Thanks for the article, this was very useful.

  • Rosie says:

    I try to be careful about asking for help, in that there are some people who feel if you need a very small favor, will feel you now owe them for something huge, like a commitment that is months’ long. So we all need help once in a while, I’m careful about asking someone that I will later wish I hadn’t.

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