Let’s get to the bottom of this Facebook thing, shall we?

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Social Media is such a funny thing. It can be taken soooo seriously and can be laughed at…all in the same day, ie. Facebook. I bring this up for a few reasons. Last year, I had a friend tell me she had to “unfriend” someone she knew on Facebook because they posted a selfie with their Uncle. Ok, that doesn’t seem bad right? Well yahhhhh, the uncle was dead and the selfie was AT his funeral. Ummmm…say whaaaaaat??!! Now maybe they had their reasons for doing it, but her point was that she felt it was in poor taste so it was her choice to unfriend them and she did.

With the whole election insanity as of late, there were Facebook unfriendings happening left and right. That’s why I try to steer clear of posing anything political but really, let’s be honest…we should all be able to have grown up conversations and share differing opinions about ANYTHING without getting all bagigity with each other right? Yah, apparently not because this was the worst case of Facebook UNfriendings I’ve ever seen. lol I had friends posting staus updates all of the time…”Soooo, I just had to UNfriend someone because…insert reason here.” Aie yie yie.

I guess Facebook unfriending just doesn’t faze me at all. Really. My true friendships are in the real world anyway. I use my personal Facebook page to keep up with friends and family and once in a while share lighthearted and happy things and not really anything else. I just don’t even use my personal page alot anymore anyway. But that’s because I also have a “work” Facebook page for Surviving Mommy and I loooove posting there. Which hello, I hope you’ve liked this page! 😉 That page is where I like to post happy, giddy, Disney, silly, make you get all weepy things…videos, pictures, stories, whatever. I post there all of the time and I choose to use that Facebook page and all social media really, for sharing the good stuff. 

But don’t get it twisted, I’ve been unfriended before. I am sure you have too. I think when people do it, they do it for a handful of reasons. Maybe it’s to be spiteful and “sting” the other person which I believe, if you’re taking to Facebook to make your statement and that makes you feel better, then by all means go for it. Whatever. You do you. I don’t think I’ve ever been seriously hurt by a Facebook unfriending though. I mean come on, really? It’s FACEBOOK! Sometimes there is also no spite or “sting” even, maybe it’s just time to move on and that’s ok too. With age comes peace.

I’ve also unfriended people myself. Mostly because their account became inactive and it was taking up valuable new friend space. Ha! Or say if we’ve lost touch in real life, whether good, bad or ugly…I guess there is no point in continuing a “friendship” on Facebook right? Who knows but I just don’t think we should be putting that much stock into Facebook friendships. There’s too much real life to live people! 

Have you done it?? Has it been done to you? What is your reason for unfriending someone? Whether it’s good, bad or ugly…share below!

XO Surviving Mommy

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21 Comments

  • Kelly says:

    I’ve started unfriending the people that constantly post negative stuff. I have a little over 1200 fb “friends”. I probably know about 500 of them and actually talk to about 4 of them.
    So, it’s for me to keep the positivity up and the negativity out. 🙂

  • Alison says:

    I recently got Facebook in early October. I got it because the yoga training I am doing requires it and the dog rescue group a just starting fostering for requires it. As soon as I signed up the people found me and I had all these friends.

    I was not prepared for the massive amounts of anger on all sides of the political spectrum and it was driving me crazy. I didn’t know how to work Facebook so I was getting everyone’s 👍👎🏿 And it was seriously making me batty because all I wanted was information and assignments from my groups.

    I think a little part of me died the day I signed up for Facebook 😂

  • Aubrey says:

    I unfriendly my best friend from childhood, who I had found again after years away that I found on Facebook. The reason was religion. I am fine with everyone believing what they believe, but her views were on the complete opposite end of the spectrum, I’m Christian & she was an atheist. I didn’t know this when I was a child & only discovered it when she started posting about how people who believed in God were dumb. That was where I drew the line. I felt like keeping her as a friend would be betraying God to me, & I wasn’t willing to do that, so I moved on. The things we discover through wonderful Facebook, hahaha😂!

  • Michele says:

    I had to unfriend my cousin because I had made the comment that Trump can’t single handedly make America great again that it is up to everyone to make a difference to make America great. She said have fun with that, I’m not! I couldn’t believe it! I mean everyone is responsible for their own happiness and it is up to everyone to make a difference. This whole thing about one person being responsible for everyone’s life is so much a joke. Trump is not responsible for my life or my life choices neither would have been Clinton had she won. I am so disappointed at all the people who have taken this election too far with their demonstrations. We need to become United regardless of who is President. No other President has made life choices for me and it will be no different this time. I stayed out of the social media circus and did not voice my opinion at all. Who I voted for is my business and my life choices are my life choices. No one can change my life except me. So sad what has happened since the election. The media hasn’t helped before or after the election. I choose to make my America great by making great choices. Ok, off my soapbox! FYI: I have never unfriended anyone before! I may friend her once everything calms down.

  • Kristen says:

    During the 2008 election, I made a mild comment about Obama – I questioned his commitment to capitalism and said I wasn’t going to vote for a socialist. I maintained that it was a fantastic moment in US history that a person of color was running for president. Never said anything insulting. A very close friend of twenty-five years, who happened to be black, called me a racist. Huh? I unfriended him. It hurt. A lot. Move on. I hate Facebook. 😬

    • Teresa Kick says:

      Same here, back then I said something about Obama, absolutely nothing to do with race and my husband heard it at work all day about how he was married to a racist. ? What? It’s crazy.

  • Teresa Kick says:

    If someone unfriends me so be it. What gets me are the Facebook stalkers who just troll Facebook to see what other people are doing. And the people with like 900 friends, ” really ?” Some people just take it waaaay too serious. As Joe Dirte said ” Life’s a garden, dig it. “

  • Angie says:

    A cousin unfriended me over the election….Oh well. It is what it is. My husband laughed when I told him about it.

  • Kim says:

    Thursday (17) was unfriend day on fb I had to laugh when I heard. The radio station ssid it was OK !!! Haha

  • Joey Fortman says:

    Ohhhh yes, girlfriend. I went to town on my facebook. MULTIPLE times. Last year I deleted about 2000. No joke. Mainly cause my mom was mad that I never saw her posts. lol But after the election – yes – I did so too. I don’t have 2 seconds to waste on ignorance & hurtful people in my life anymore. I was attacked by my home town (I’m sure you saw it LOL) and didn’t care one iota if any one unfriended me. Facebook is so silly. Taking breaks from people who bring you bad mojo is a great thing!

  • Diane says:

    To be honest i’m so tempted to disable facebook, because i cannot stand the behaviors i found each day

  • Stephanie says:

    I’ve gotten to the point where I only use social media to follow my favorite authors and blogs.

  • Brigid OHara Koshko says:

    I have never unfriended anyone. If something is posted that is not to my liking (a comment/post) I just ignore it. I make a point of asking myself before I post if it is something I want the whole world to see, especially if it comes to my kids. That helps me.

  • Terry Poage says:

    I take everything with a grain of salt. I have friends unfriend me for re-posting animal abuse petitions and animals needing adoption from shelters.

  • Kelly says:

    I would agree this election was horrible. I also agree that we should be able to be adult and listen to each others opinions without being a whinny brat. I do, however, find that I found out a lot about different “friends” that I have on Facebook. Some people were only acquaintances but other good friends. People that posted hateful things about the other group. Name calling and obscenities are not something I want to deal with, so I would unfollow these people. I have rejoined some of those pages now that the election has concluded, but others not. Still are my friends, but I just don’t see their posts. Facebook has become a place that can be quite negative and I choose to avoid those conversations.

  • lanie says:

    Social media is both a blessing and a curse! I think you can use it for good and to get your word across but people take it too seriously and abuse it. I have unfriended toxic people in my life to make room for healthy new friendships! It is your right to do what you wish with your page.

  • Wanda Tracey says:

    I like to stay sociable as I can on facebook.I just like to browse and read positive people’s stories and stay up to date with the news .

  • Definitely love staying active on social networking sites but sometimes I take breaks to just focus on myself. It’s always good to do a social media detox every now and tgen. I’m all about connecting with others and being positive

  • Mali says:

    I unfriend people because they give it to someone else.

  • Mali says:

    I unfriend people because they give it to someone else. And sometime they changed their personality

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