Ugh! She is SOOOO happy!

HURT

I was having a conversation with one of my best friends the other day. I asked her how her new relationship was going, (She has been dating a guy for six months) and she said AWESOME! But, she said she feels weird telling people that. I didn’t understand what she meant at first. Telling people what? That is he is awesome? She said she holds back because she feels like she is may sound like she bragging about him and their relationship and is afraid people don’t want to hear her to go on and on and on. I about lost my mind. Whaaaaaat?? WHO CARES WHAT PEOPLE THINK OR SAY? The only thing that matters is that YOU are happy. Period.

I shared a story with her that happened to me a few years back. I worked for a radio station in Atlanta for twelve years. Sometimes at radio stations they do something called “perceptuals.” This is File Apr 02, 8 52 50 PMessentially like a focus group. They ask a bunch of people who listen to the radio station questions. Questions about the music, the logos and even the people on the radio. Ya know, the radio personalities, aka, me. 🙂 Well in one of the reports they got back, my boss said that I had high remarks but a woman in one of the groups said that she liked me but thought I was “too happy!” and no one is “that happy!” lol Too happy? As if someone can be too happy? Isn’t that funny? My boss even said it with some annoyance in his tone as if HE were the one that felt that way about me and not the woman. Either way, it made me chuckle. I said, I SURE AM happy and there’s nothing I’m gonna do about that.

Let’s break it down. First, it could have been him who thought that or it could have been the woman. Who knows. All I do I know is that he was not a very happy person. He had a tendency to lie. Alot. He wasn’t a good leader and unfortunately, no one at the company really cared for him. He was later terminated because of it. Now if it was the woman who said that, then maybe she just didn’t like me and that’s ok too. OR maybe she was sad or unhappy about something in her own life and the thought of me being “SO happy” didn’t sit well with her…OR him. It’s all good though. I ain’t mad at them. It’s how they felt. I wish them well.

Look, I’m not happy all of the time. Come on, NO ONE IS! Geez. I’ve had pretty craptastic periods of my life where I thought I kinda sucked as a person. I made some bad choices, some mistakes. We all have right? But I finally found my center and He loves me no matter what. Even on my bad days. THAT is all that matters really. And after going through a storm, I came out alive and better than ever. Praise you Jesus! I kicked cancer, met a great guy and we fell in love and now I AM trying to live my life happily ever after! #SorryNotSorry 🙂

I learned a really good saying and I say it to my oldest daughter all of the time if someone says something ugly to her. Hurt people, hurt people. It’s true. Very rarely when someone is mean to you, does it have to do with YOU! It has to do with them and something inside their heart. And THAT is why we pray for people when they are not nice to us. Then I told my friend, if you are happy, then share it with the world and who cares what anyone else thinks. Life is too short!

And while we’re at it, let’s uplift others because they ARE happy because Heaven knows, we NEED those happy people around for the days when we ourselves are not feeling so happy. Isn’t that the person you wanna call? The one who IS happy all of the time? I know I do and I am grateful for those happy people!

XO Surviving Mommy

 

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6 Comments

  • Tami says:

    Well said, Cindy! I’m thinking the woman who said you were “too happy” was being quizzed in the morning and is NOT a morning person to start with. I am NOT a morning person. If I couldn’t take your “happiness” that morning while you were still on Atlanta radio, it was soooo me and I turned off the radio until I became more ME than this grumpy-grump, non-morning person. Plus, her reply was kind of dumb to begin with. HOW can anyone be “too happy”? Isn’t happiness the thing we all strive to achieve? We all need happiness and joy in life. If we can’t see it because we choose to allow a dark cloud to hover over us, then it’s totally our problem. Everyone will have problems in life, even trials & tribulations. It’s all in how we choose to face them.

    Congrats to your friend on her relationship. There are a few of us navigating life alone, and it’s not always a good thing. So, if love finds you, embrace it.

  • Michele says:

    I totally agree! I had a friend for YEARS and she was hardly ever happy. It brought me down every time. I found myself being unhappy and it spread to my family and friends. I realized that in order for me to be happy I needed to get out of that relationship. We are still friends but not like we were before. I realized that my happiness was more important than the unhappiness that effected everyone else around me. I live everyday thanking God for what I have no matter how much or how little. I am thankful and I am happy!

  • Janet says:

    Preach it, Sister! I listened to you and Ray (crabby-ass) for years because of your upbeat and HAPPY self! Haters are going to hate regardless, and hurt people are walking around with heavy hearts. So, like you advised, it’s best just to pray for them! 😉🙏🏻❤️

  • Regina Ice says:

    Oh my gosh! Cindy, thank you, thank you, thank you!! I read your post with such joy! I share the same, and am always perplexed when people tell me i am too happy. If it is okay, I am going to share your quote with my daughter. I had always tried to explain it another way, but this quote is perfect! I love you and your sweet fam!! Have the happiest of weeks!!♡♡♡♡♡

  • Cindy Pittman says:

    Being happy is a choice. We can either wallow in misery or choose joy. I choose joy! Everybody has a bad day from time to time but what you do about it makes you the person you are. Welcome and embrace grace and choose joy. So happy for you that you did.

  • Ashley Davis says:

    You are my friend because you are a happy person who brings joy to those around you!!! You see the positive in negative situations and I love you for it!!! We should all share our happiness!!! The world would be a better place for it!

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