Which movie do you feel is worse for your kids to watch?

2015-08-20 16.45.13Lately, I’ve been in this movie phase with my oldest daughter who is ten. I want her to see all of the movies I loved from my childhood. But after showing her Grease AND Grease 2, I realized that wow…some of my favorite childhood movies are WAY riskier than I ever imagined they were when I watched them when I was a kid.

I stumbled across a website a few years ago called Common Sense Media (this is NOT an #ad) but it’s an awesome website where you can plug in any movie (book, game, TV show, website etc) and then it gives it an age appropriate number via a kids AND parent’s rating. It is super helpful! It also gives you details of what the risky or questionable scenes might be for that movie too. Needless to say, we have used it alot lately!

So what are we watching in our house? Well, obviously we love everything and anything Disney and of course I want my daughter to see the ENTIRE Star Wars trilogy because, duh. 🙂 But I also want her to see other awesome 80’s movies like STAR WARS TRILOGYGhostbusters, Beetlejuice, Goonies, and the Tom Hanks mermaid movie Splash, to name a few. But man, these 80’s movies have ALOT of sexual undertones and/or profanity.  Now that I think about it though, I really didn’t know what curse words were or about the birds and the bees when I saw these movies, so anything I saw or heard in those movies flew right over my head. But is that still ok?

This started a conversation with one of my girlfriends about the movies our kids watch. She asked which I thought was worse? Watching movies where there is violence (say with Pirates or Superheroes) OR watching movies with sexual undertones/sexual immorality? I told her I’d have to marinate on that one for a minute and take it to the blog.

So what say you my Surviving Mommy readers…would you rather have your kids watch a movie with a lot of violence OR a movie filled with sexual innuendo and/or sprinkled with profanity?

XO Surviving Mommy

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3 Comments

  • Cyndy says:

    I always told my son when he was a “tween” – you can watch movies with violence or sex but I draw the line at violent sex! He is now a darn well-adjusted married man expecting my first grandchild any day now, he’s 30! LOL It worked for us 🙂

  • Michele says:

    I would go with the non violent movies. The ones with the sexual innuendo’s will go over your daughters head just like they did when we were younger. Now if you lived in a lifestyle that had all of that “stuff” happening in the home it would be totally different. I work in an elementary school which is very transited and unfortunately it is in an area of pretty much poverty level. Many of these children come from very unstable homes and they have seen way too much for their age. It is like their innocence has been taken from them. They are very street wise and so for them, those kind of movies are the norm. I often have children asking me if I saw a particular movie and I would say no, why. They would go on to tell me that they saw it. My response every time is, that is not a movie for a child. That is for adults. And then they say, well my mom lets me watch it. Your daughter thank goodness has not been exposed to that so most of that “stuff” would go right over her head. I hope this helps. I know I try my best to keep the innocence with these children as long as I can. I know I make a difference and that is why I choose to work in that school. Most of these children just need someone to let them know they care. Now I’m getting off the subject but I think I made my point. Good luck and again I don’t think you have any worries. You are a great mommy and a positive influence for your children. God Bless!

  • April says:

    Can I go with neither? I noticed the same thing as you. I love those movies I grew up watching but I don’t let my kids ( 10yr old boy, 6 yr old girl ) watch half of what I did. I find myself even skipping parts in ghostbusters because of the skimpy clothing. I want to teach my children modesty and I hope to be the one to teach them, along with my husband, all they need to know about sex and relationships. We want to raise our kids with good morals and values, it’s just seems to be a lot harder these days than it was when I was a kid. Of course I was the kid and didn’t think about that stuff. I’m also a child of the 80’s and didn’t think about the sex and violence having such a big impact on me. I know, looking back, my parents let me do WAY more than I let my kids do. It’s just a different time and we need to be a little more careful about what our kids see. Everything is so ” in your face ” everywhere you go, from tv to social media to electronic billboards. We really need to teach/remind them everyday what’s really important, or someone or something else will. I am in no way judging anyone or how they parent. This is strictly my opinion.

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