Why I want my ex-husband to be happy!

eben2I’ve written about my ex-husband before or as I like to call him my “previous husband”, “Ex” just sounds so, meh, I dunno, yucky. lol Like last year I wrote about what divorce looks like in our house (you can read it here) and what “our normal” is in our family. My “previous husband” used to live here obviously but left Atlanta many years ago and moved to Los Angeles (my hometown), to pursue his acting career. He also writes scripts. Now while I haven’t seen him technically act in anything yet, I have read a few of his scripts and they are all AH-mazing! Really. Like I hope they get turned into movies because I would totally go see them! He’s pretty talented so I can’t wait to see him act too. He just recently finished extensive acting lessons at this big time hard core acting school in LA and after working on his craft for yeeeeears now, he is finally ready to jump in and just signed with a new manager too. I feel like things are really about to take off for him and I think that is AWESOME!

He and I have had a long running joke that if he makes it big, he’s gonna do three things for me. In fact, about once a year I remind him about this conversation. One thing he offered to do and the other two were my requests. 🙂

  1. He offered to pay for his daughter Lily’s college education. In fact, he said if he made it REALLY big, he would even pay for Luna’s too. Ha! All about that! lol
  2. He promised to introduce me to my Loki, Tom Hiddleston. Duh.
  3. He also said he would give his ex-wife the ol’ shout out at the Academy Awards. Come on…how funny (and cool) would that be, right?! #LittleThingsInLife

So the other day when he texted me to share the good news of getting a new manager, I texted him congrats and theFile Jun 28, 1 48 47 PM reasons I want him to be happy. I think he’s so used to my dorkiness that it doesn’t even phase him anymore! He’s coming to visit next month for Lily’s birthday and we are even going to a film festival together while he is here. We might not be married anymore or haven’t been married for a long time now but I love the fact that we are friends and can laugh through life together! I also love that he and my husband Eric get along so well too! I feel very Blessed!

Oh and “Previous Husband’s” name is actually Eben Reinhardt and there’s what he looks like. So if you see him on TV or in a movie…you know that means I am one step closer to meeting my Loki. 😉

XO Surviving Mommy

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  • Janet West says:

    Cindy, you are the sweetest person on Earth! I’m sure I’m not the only person who always wondered about him. Lily has the most beautiful eyes, and now I see where they came from. You’re such a wonderful and faithful family. For the sake of the children, it’s always better for “previous” husbands and wives to get along.
    I’ll be rooting for Eben and watching for him to win that Academy award. Enjoy your visit and I hope mama Jane is feeling better.

  • Tami says:

    I never knew any of this about the 1st hubs. But now that I know, I’ll definitely file his name away in my head in case I ever see him on the Big Screen or on TV. Awesome!!

    Annnnd…..he has his own iMDB profile!!! He’s on his way!! http://www.imdb.com/name/nm5460301/bio?ref_=nm_ov_bio_sm

  • Carrie says:

    Aww, I love this! My husband and I are going through a divorce right now and we are on great terms. I am always telling him that I want him to find his happy place wherever that may be. Because if he is happy then we are going to have a good relationship and in return, our son will benefit from that good relationship. Today is actually his birthday. I sent him a message this morning to wish him well and ask what he was doing for the big day. When he said nothing, I immediately told him that I was taking him out to dinner. Although we get along great and are really good friends, I think that took him aback a little bit. He said that I didn’t have to but I insisted. We were friends before we were married and I still consider him a friend. I take care of my friends! Glad to see other people are able to have relationships like this with their “previous husband”…or in my case “almost previous husband”. 🙂

  • Cat says:

    I too had wondered what happened to him..

  • Michele says:

    So great to hear stories like this. To be able to be friends after getting divorced is rarely heard of! You are truly blessed to have that relationship! So many people turn their kids against their “ex’s” and it is just sad. I hope he does make it big not just for him but for you as well! What a heartwarming story! Thanks for sharing. God Bless

  • Gayle parks says:

    I think Lilly looks like her Dad. It is wonderful you two are friends. Lilly will benefit from all of this.

  • Alice Camejo says:

    Wishing your previous husband well in his career! As I see it, he has to make it big…..he has such a cool name!

  • Jerrye Lail says:

    I am so happy for you that you can have an “adult” management of your divorce. Most of us were not that fortunate, or just could not get to the point for good reasons. I know that Lily and Luna will benefit from the example you, your sweetie, and your previous have put in place. I salute you because I believe that you are the ignition to making this all happen.

    I wish I could have had that type of relationship with my “previous”, but was not meant to be. I did make sure that I told my kids that their father was a sick person who I could not help – a life long alcoholic. They learned who he was from his behavior and the monster he became after drinking too much. He has since passed away.

    My kids know that I never tried to manipulate them in any manner. There were many weekends that I was at home crying my eyes out because I could not be assured that my child was okay. Prayers were answered. And now I have wonderful relationships with my kids because I did not bash their “Biological Sperm Donor”. That is the term they settled on for their father. My sweetie is just their “Dad”.

    Life is good!

  • Kim says:

    I had to go back a few blogs but thought your previous husbands name was Aaron I’m so totally confused. I’ve listened to you since the very 1st day you started at star 94. Aaron built houses then but now he writes movies. That was a switch!!! Am I confused or what???

    • Not confused at all Kim! lol His name used to be Aaron and yes, he used to build houses. He moved to Los Angeles years ago to to pursue acting and legally changed his name to Eben! 🙂 PS. Thank you for listening as long as you did Kim! 🙂

  • Stephanie says:

    I wish my parents had tried as hard as you to get along when I was younger.

  • Linda Manns Linneman says:

    I think this is great. It is so important for our children because divorce is hard enough. I am so proud of you. Thank you for sharing

  • Donna K says:

    My children’s watched and I get along pretty well until… his wife decides to put in her two cents.

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