My take on 50 Shades of Grey and what it REALLY should be called.


I need to preface this post by saying that if you do NOT want to talk about the 50 Shades of Grey movie BEFORE you see it, you should stop reading here! lol

Soooo I did NOT read any of the 50 Shades of Grey books. That being said, I got invited to a screening of the movie the other night and honestly had ZERO desire in seeing the movie. I went partly because it was an excuse to have a girls night out with one of my besties Heather and because I was curious really. I know ALOT of friends who read the books and really liked them but I always said…they were just not for me.

Had these books and movie come out ten years ago, maybe I would have been on the bandwagon but I just view life differently now because I am different now. I am a mom and while I feel very strongly that sexy time is important to me as a wife and a woman, I felt like this movie just made me feel dirty. And not in a good way. 😉

I think Dakota Johnson is beautiful and I support whatever choices she makes because they are just that…HER choices. But I felt like the better name for this movie should have been 50 Shades of Dakota’s boobies. Really. At one point I looked around the theater like…is this for real? How many more times am I going to see Anastacia’s girls?!

Unfortunately, I also couldn’t get past the thought that if it were either of my two daughters Lily and Luna on that screen, I would be sad. Sad that they would share their beautiful body with the world in that way. Sad that once again this movie conveys a story that is oh so old and tired. Pile a bunch of expensive gifts on a girl and she will do whatever you want. I already saw Pretty Woman.

Look, the truth is, like I said above, it just wasn’t for me. Maybe I am too “old”. Maybe I am too “religious”.  Or I dunno, maybe I just want to see women presented in a way that is beautiful, respected, celebrated and honored.  This movie did none of that for me.

I would LOVE for you to share your thoughts with me below after you have seen the movie!

XO Surviving Mommy

PS. One of my favorite songs that I always sing to Lily is called More Beautiful You by Jonny Diaz. The lyrics make me get all weepy into a puddle so I wanted to share it with you because it sums my feelings up perfectly!

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  • Michele says:

    I have no intentions on seeing it. My 24yr old said her and her fiancé are going to see it tonight. I don’t see it as a couples movie. Maybe, and that’s a big maybe a girls movie, out of curiosity. I will let you know what my daughter has to say about it.

  • astew says:

    I am guilty of reading the books and really enjoying them. Being a busy mom/wife with two boys it was a needed brain numbing break for my long crazy days. With a book, the reader uses their imaginations, life experiences, and good sense to set their own personal imagery into their mind. I truly believe that this movie will be shoving crap down my throat and I truly do not want to watch bouncing tatas with hundreds of people shut into a large room. With that said,I will be renting it when it comes out, just for discussion purposes. 😉

  • Sonja says:

    I also read the books, and I will not be going to see the movies. From what I have heard from people who have seen the movie I get the feeling that the true depth of the story isn’t being focused on. (As Usual) Yes, the books are about a very sexual nature of a mans choices and a woman of 20 who falls for him. Yet, unlike the movies the books show how she struggles with her attraction to him and his issues. In the end because she loves him HE CHANGES. Not her. Her honesty and her truths are what gives him the love he needs. He comes full circle and is able to allow for a true love and not the sex he had equated to love. I think these books are for those who live on that fringe and who aren’t really happy with being there. My bestie tells me I see the good in all people and things. And calls me a Pollyanna. I am. I prefer being this way for it opens my eyes to why people do what they do and how in each of us there is a profound need to be loved. I believe a person whether we are gay (I am lesbian) or straight should be human first. To me sexuality is but a mode of expression. Our humanity is where I feel we should live from. I study the Course of Miracles. Basically it states we live from two places in this life. Love or Fear. Love equates to all that helps us and others to live in love. To love people unconditionally and to honor everyone. Fear encompasses all that degrades us and tears us away from God and his true want for us in this lifetime. Which is simply that we learn to love each other. Sorry for the length of this. :O)

  • Sonja says:

    I love music with a message. The song by Johnny Diaz is beautiful. Just as the song by Colbi Colbre. I don’t know the name of the song, yet if I had children I would play this song for the girls. She speaks about Do you Like You? You being a radio personality and a mom would probably know the song. Take care.

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