I was having a conversation with one of my best friends the other day. I asked her how her new relationship was going, (She has been dating a guy for six months) and she said AWESOME! But, she said she feels weird telling people that. I didn’t understand what she meant at first. Telling people what? That is he is awesome? She said she holds back because she feels like she is may sound like she bragging about him and their relationship and is afraid people don’t want to hear her to go on and on and on. I about lost my mind. Whaaaaaat?? WHO CARES WHAT PEOPLE THINK OR SAY? The only thing that matters is that YOU are happy. Period.
I shared a story with her that happened to me a few years back. I worked for a radio station in Atlanta for twelve years. Sometimes at radio stations they do something called “perceptuals.” This is essentially like a focus group. They ask a bunch of people who listen to the radio station questions. Questions about the music, the logos and even the people on the radio. Ya know, the radio personalities, aka, me. 🙂 Well in one of the reports they got back, my boss said that I had high remarks but a woman in one of the groups said that she liked me but thought I was “too happy!” and no one is “that happy!” lol Too happy? As if someone can be too happy? Isn’t that funny? My boss even said it with some annoyance in his tone as if HE were the one that felt that way about me and not the woman. Either way, it made me chuckle. I said, I SURE AM happy and there’s nothing I’m gonna do about that.
Let’s break it down. First, it could have been him who thought that or it could have been the woman. Who knows. All I do I know is that he was not a very happy person. He had a tendency to lie. Alot. He wasn’t a good leader and unfortunately, no one at the company really cared for him. He was later terminated because of it. Now if it was the woman who said that, then maybe she just didn’t like me and that’s ok too. OR maybe she was sad or unhappy about something in her own life and the thought of me being “SO happy” didn’t sit well with her…OR him. It’s all good though. I ain’t mad at them. It’s how they felt. I wish them well.
Look, I’m not happy all of the time. Come on, NO ONE IS! Geez. I’ve had pretty craptastic periods of my life where I thought I kinda sucked as a person. I made some bad choices, some mistakes. We all have right? But I finally found my center and He loves me no matter what. Even on my bad days. THAT is all that matters really. And after going through a storm, I came out alive and better than ever. Praise you Jesus! I kicked cancer, met a great guy and we fell in love and now I AM trying to live my life happily ever after! #SorryNotSorry 🙂
I learned a really good saying and I say it to my oldest daughter all of the time if someone says something ugly to her. Hurt people, hurt people. It’s true. Very rarely when someone is mean to you, does it have to do with YOU! It has to do with them and something inside their heart. And THAT is why we pray for people when they are not nice to us. Then I told my friend, if you are happy, then share it with the world and who cares what anyone else thinks. Life is too short!
And while we’re at it, let’s uplift others because they ARE happy because Heaven knows, we NEED those happy people around for the days when we ourselves are not feeling so happy. Isn’t that the person you wanna call? The one who IS happy all of the time? I know I do and I am grateful for those happy people!
XO Surviving Mommy